A golden rule: to leave an incomplete image of oneself.
Above all trust in the slow work of God. Only God could say what this new spirit gradually forming within you will be. Give our Lord the benefit of believing that His hand is leading you, and accept the anxiety of feeling yourself in suspense and incomplete.
If you get married they think you’re finished and if you are without a woman they think you’re incomplete.
If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.
I know that my singing doesn’t make the moon rise, nor does it make the stars shine. But without my song, the night would seem empty and incomplete. There is more to daybreak than light, just as there is more to nighttime than darkness.